Regarding Family

Sunday, August 9 2015

Ma Preps for Lap Swim

Ma puts on her swim cap.

Ma preps for lap swim.

On the topic of: Family, Finer Living, Pittsburgh, Reportage, Snapshots, Summer, Swimming, Western Pennsylvania

Saturday, August 8 2015

Scotch with Pa

Pa hoists a glass

After I got the swim in with Ma, Pa and I went down to Piper's Pub and had some Scotch.

It's a shame Pa can't taste as well as he used to. The surgery altered his whole olfactory setup. On the bright side, that reduced sensitivity means I don't have to buy him the top shelf stuff.

Still, we're celebrating – his 65th year, his recovery and his pseudo-retirement. I ordered us some Laphroaig 18. 

On the topic of: Bandanas, Drinking, Family, Pittsburgh, Scotch, Snapshots, South Side, Western PA

Friday, August 7 2015

Typical Saturday night in Ingomar

Grandma at the kitchen table, clipping coupons on a Saturday night

Grandma clips coupons at my parents' kitchen table. Her hair is up in rollers tonight so it'll look good for mass tomorrow. 

On the topic of: Coupons, Family, Ingomar, Pittsburgh, Saturday Nights, Sunday Best, Western PA

Saturday, June 6 2015

Kool Kones with Grandma

Grandma Kool Kones in Pittsburgh, PA

Ma took Gma and I out for ice cream. 

On the topic of: Eating, Family, Grandparents, Ice Cream, McCandless, Pittsburgh, Roadside attractions, Snacking

Monday, August 4 2014

Hitting the Road, But After Practicing Rudimentary and Stupid Photography

long exposure composite roadside construction zone trailing lights

After dinner with Ma at Lulu's, where our waitress recognized me as a regular from my college days, and sorting through the client tasks that amassed while I was preoccupied with Life Itself, I began the drive back to NYC.

On the topic of: Dad's Laryngectomy, Family, Highway Sideshows, Night, Pennsylvania, Pittsburgh, Technique, Travel

Monday, August 4 2014

The Point At Which I Am Inclined To Gasp, But Don't

Somewhere after 5pm, we got to see my dad. It looked like they'd cut his head off and reattached it using a staple gun. He was breathing through a tube through a gaping hole in whatever the name is for that divot of a place below your neck, between your clavicles. It was one of the most horrific and miraculous things I've ever seen.

On the topic of: Dad's Laryngectomy, Family, Grief, Hospitals, Pittsburgh, Surgery

Monday, August 4 2014

As We're Waiting in the Family Lounge at Montefiore Hospital

mother on couch hospital waiting room

My mother had been camped out in the lounge since 5am. That's when she and my dad arrived. He went off to surgery prep at 5:30am.

On the topic of: Anxiety, Dad's Laryngectomy, Family, Hospitals, Patience, Waiting

Sunday, August 3 2014

Not Just A Pretty Face


Dad said he wanted a new photo for his LinkedIn profile. I think, maybe, he wanted a proper photo of his head and neck before the surgery would forever change these parts.

We took a few shots on the deck behind the house. This was one of the outtakes.

On the topic of: Dad's Laryngectomy, Family, Ingomar, Pittsburgh

Sunday, August 3 2014

Pop's Vox for Posterity

man prepares to make audio recording

At my mom's suggestion, I'm recording the sound of my Dad's voice for posterity. As an ever-dutiful archivist, I rolled video too.

On the topic of: Archiving, Boguszewskis, Family, Ingomar, Pennsylvania, Transitions, Video

Saturday, August 2 2014

A Few Last Words

dad reaching for beer

Tomorrow's my Dad's birthday.

Two days from now he's having a laryngectomy, a surgery resulting in the removal of his voice box and natural ability to speak. Conversation won't be the same after that.

Tonight we had a drink.

On the topic of: Beers, Conversations, Dads, Dining, Family, Pittsburgh, Transitions

Saturday, May 10 2014

Grandma Waits

Following the reception, Grandma waited for her ride home with the flag from Pap's casket in her lap.

On the topic of: Death, Family, Grandparents, Life, Snapshots, St. Alphonsus, Tradition, Wexford

Friday, May 9 2014

Parting shots, post-processing.

grandfather laid out in casket

"That feels just like Pap," I said to myself when I gave his arm a hestiant pat to say goodbye. "He's all bony." 

On the topic of: Closure, Death, Family, Grandparents, Post-mortem

Saturday, May 3 2014

Sunday Strolling at the Capitol

capitol dome Washington, D.C.

I'm in DC this weekend to help my sister pick out an apartment. Originally my mother was supposed to be here. Ma and Dork were to have a girls' weekend together – while finding my sister a new pad in easy-commuting range to and from her new job doing something in bank customer service just outside Our Nation's Capitol. But my mom is tending to my grandfather, who collapsed from a stroke on Monday, and her thoughts are fixed and focused mostly on that. And what comes next. Which I'd rather not think about. So the trip to DC also works to relieve me of doing that. 

On the topic of: DC, Family, Sundays, Tourism, Travel

Sunday, April 20 2014

Easter Sunday in Pittsburgh

easter basket on my parent's dining room table

I turned 34 this month, the reason for the birthday balloon in the background, but the Easter basket tradition never gets old for my parents.

On the topic of: Easter, Family, Ingomar, Pittsburgh, Sunday, Warped Humor, Weirdness

Saturday, April 19 2014

Grandma in Rollers

woman helping mother put hair in rollers

Grandma used to do this herself, every Saturday, for long as I can remember, but needs help these days.

I haven't witnessed this ceremony in years. When I used to stay at my grandparent's place on Saturday nights, this was part of the ritual of preparation for Sunday morning's 8 am mass, along with Grandma passing out cones of White House (cherry vanilla) ice cream and Pap watching Lawrence Welk and maybe Austin City Limits if he could stay awake.

On the topic of: Easter, Family, Grandma, Hairdos, Ingomar, Memories, Pittsburgh